Common Misconceptions of the Introvert

Just because I'm not as urgent to speak, doesn't mean I'm stupid! Here are some common misconceptions of the introvert, that we're going to clear up...

1. The Introvert can't lead
Of course I disagree with this! There are awesome advantages to leadership that the introvert possesses. I outlined those advantages in a previous 2 part post. But to put it succinctly, the less you talk, the more you listen! Effective listening is the key to effective leadership.

2. The Introvert is shy
Not True! The definition of being shy is "easily frightened with a timid reserve" in social situations. I am introvert and I definitely don't see myself as easily frightened of social situations. Part of my job is getting up in front of people and speaking, singing, interacting with people on my team and in the congregation. Sometimes we label someone as shy, when really they simply are confident enough to be comfortable with silence. Don't make that mistake!

3. The Introvert has no opinion
Again, wrong! The Introvert loves the old adage "Better to be thought a fool and remain silent, than to open your mouth and remove all doubt." as well as Proverbs 17:28. The fact is that the Introvert's opinions need time to cook, and just because we aren't verbalizing opinions, doesn't mean we aren't thinking, and fine-tuning them. Ideally, while the Extrovert is spouting off opinion after opinion without having thought it through, the Introvert is crafting their opinion, weighing pros and cons, sifting through our thoughts, listening to others, and landing on a conclusion that, hopefully, will be insightful and wise. Decreasing the clutter of undercooked opinions, and increasing the amount of finely tuned, solution oriented opinions, typically results in more efficient action. And nothing frustrates the Introvert more than inaction, after they have spent energy formulating what they they is an opinion that can provide a solution. I can't tell you how many times I've been in a meeting and not said anything. I don't necessarily wear that as a badge of honor, but I do think some meetings could benefit from "little less conversation, a little more action" (thanks, Elvis). Maybe the Introvert should start ruling the meeting room...although it could be a very quiet meeting, ha!

I'm sure the common misconceptions list will be always evolving and added to, but that's all I have for now...anything I'm forgetting....?